Happy Birthday

Finlay Matthew Pacholski entered into this world on Oct 8 2011 at 4:34 pm. He was born at 35 weeks 4 days, weighed 5lbs 12oz, was 19.5" long, and has 10 fingers and 10 toes. Finlay came as a very unexpected surprise he was not expected for another 2-4 weeks. My water broke at home and 4.5 hrs later there was Finlay. He had no complications but due to the fact that I had not been tested for Strep-B I was treated like I had it when we got to the hospital. I was put on antibiotics and needed to be on them for 4 hrs before his birth but unfortunately only received 2 hrs of them before we had no choice but to push. So he was put on AmpGen (which can cause hearing loss) as a preventative in case I did have it and passed it to him. Fortunately he did not have it all blood work came up clean. He had to remain in the hospital for 48 hrs though b/c of the drug. Finlay did pass his hearing test which by the way was done by his Grammy B. He needs to get rechecked though in a couple weeks b/c of the drugs. He had a rough first night and was kept in the nursery all night b/c he was having difficulty eating. He was only eating 15ml's every 3 hrs but it was taking him too long and he wasn't consistent. By the 2nd night he was doing much better. Finlay and I went home Monday afternoon, it was so nice to be home with my family. It drove me nuts to be separated from Matt and Ethan. Since coming home he is eating 25ml's every 3 hrs. He has his days and nights reversed right now so he likes to keep us up all night. Unfortunately he is unable to breast feed at this time so I am having to pump several times a day. He has a small chin just like Ethan did and it prevents him from being able to make a good seal around the breast. Personally I don't care how he gets the breast milk as long as he is getting it. Right now he is sleeping in a bassinet next to our bed. B/c of him being so small and not being an on demand eater it makes it much easier to just keep him next to us. Ethan was much bigger and was an on demand eater when he came home from the NICU so putting him straight to his own room at night was OK. In a couple weeks Finlay will probably be sleeping in his own room. I do not sleep with him in bed I am just not comfortable doing that. Tomorrow he goes in for a 1 week check up with the pediatrician. She came to see him when he was 24 hrs old and was just a little concerned about the amount of formula (we are supplementing until my full milk supply comes in) he was taking in at a time so she wants to make sure he is gaining weight. I think that him being home has made a huge difference in how he eats. For one thing no one is interrupting him in the middle of eating to take his blood or poke and prod at him. When that happened at the hospital he just didn't want to eat afterward. He started taking 20ml's every 3 hrs with in 1 day of being home and today he started taking 25ml's every 3 hrs. So IMO he is doing well and I know will have put on weight. Right now he is sleeping on Matt's shoulder while Ethan is laying in Matt's lap and Peek-a-boo is laying next to them on the arm of the chair. It's a very cute site.

Finlay will soon be introduced to friends and family but Ethan has been sick so we have been unable to invite anyone over. Hopefully this weekend we will be able to introduce him to a few people. Matt has been home on vacation all this week and will be home all next week as well. We have worked hard the last 2 days to make sure Finlay does not catch what Ethan has. I have not been allowing Ethan to touch Finlay near or around the face and hands, we have had him keep his distance from Finlay's face altogether. If he touches Finlay's binky or bottles they are immediately sterilized before going to Finlay. We have been spraying Lysol on the furniture and other surfaces to help kill any germs Ethan leaves behind. So please do not come visit if you are sick or have ANY cold/flu symptoms, also no children if they are sick or have been sick and have not been symptom free for at least 72 hrs. I really want to be cautious because of his prematurity and because I don't want him to be exposed to too much all at once. I also want to be cautious b/c neither Matt nor I want to end up getting sick. We are keeping hand sanitizer all over the house and no one may hold Finlay unless they have sanitized their hands. Also if you smoke please don't smoke around Finlay or right before handling him. His lungs are premature and it could cause him problems. I know that everyone already know this stuff and I sound like an over-protective mother but it makes me feel better to say it. I carried him for 35 weeks and I worked hard to bring him into this world. Now I am working hard to keep him healthy. All these things were actually things that the pediatrician discussed with me on Sunday when she came to assess Finlay. His immune system is just not ready to be able to handle everything yet and getting sick really could send him to the PICU so I don't take it lightly.

Finlay only a few minutes old

Big Brother Ethan

Mom and her boys

First Family Picture

Going home

Only 4.5 weeks to go!

My little man has officially made it to 35 weeks. I never doubted him for a moment that he couldn't make it this far. He is doing amazing according to the Dr yesterday.

Everything is going the way it should. The baby is head down still she was able to feel his little butt up by my rib cage and his head was down on my hip bone. He's laying on the right side (his favorite place) and he just loves to kick me in the ribs which has been leaving them very sore. I did ask her about the pain I've been getting on the right side of mt back right in the ribs. I understand why it aches but the pain is so bad I have been sleeping with an ice pack in it to numb it and make myself a little more comfortable. She said for every woman it's different it just depends on how much pressure the lungs are putting on the ribs and how much the ribs need to expand to accommodate the lungs to allow them to expand. In my case he is right up in my ribs so they are having to expand quite a bit to make it all fit. All she could recommend I do is continue with the ice packs and Tylenol even though at this point Tylenol really won't help. Once he drops the pain will most likely diminish and once he is born it will go away almost immediately. So unfortunately for me it's pretty common and I just have to deal. I was just concerned about the intensity as I never got this far with Ethan so I never experienced it.

My Dr is expecting this baby to make it to full term just like I have been saying all along. She did however tell me that should he decide to come sometime before Tues he would be perfectly fine. He is a healthy weight, about a pound over the norm and the last ultrasound I had done a couple weeks ago showed that his lungs are fully matured so he won't have any problems breathing. She said that he had a 90% chance of never seeing the NICU but if he did it would only be for 24 hrs for observation and he would be going home with us. Should he come after Tues he would be 36 weeks and there would literally be no reason for him not to go home with us. I do not feel that he will come before 37 weeks though. I don't think he's done kicking me in the ribs yet. I think he wants to torture his mommy a little bit longer LOL. There's a reason I deemed him my MMA Fighter. He's got some strong kicks. Somedays I find myself begging him to stop and explain to him that Mommy needs her lungs to breath. It's kind of an important thing.

We just about have everything done and ready for his arrival. I need to get out the onsies and get them washed, I also need to get the Pack 'N Play sheets washed, and get the cover for the bassinet washed as well. I guess I will have to go get some baby blankets to wrap him up in as well I was just planning on using all the ones I had when Ethan was a baby but Ethan doesn't want his baby brother to use them. So we will have to go out and get some new ones. I still need to pick up the changing pad from one of my friends. It's brand new she never used it for her son so she is giving it to us which is great because those things are not cheap!! Otherwise everything is all ready for him to come. Now that everything is ready I am really looking forward to finally meeting this little boy who has been kicking me in the ribs and causing me to pee every half hour. It's going to be so worth it. Ethan has been talking a lot about when he baby brother will come. He asks me every day if he is coming today and I have to tell him that he has to stay in mommy's belly and cook just a little bit longer but soon he can meet him. He is so excited to have his "baby bruder" watch Baby Einstein with him and he wants him to come play in his room. It's so cute. We have tried to explain that in the beginning his brother is essentially just going to be a little lump that cries and is full of smells. I guess he will just have to see for himself. Ethan has been such a big help over the last month around the house I really hope that he will want to continue that and be a big help with his baby brother as well. It's good bonding time when he helps me and it would really help him bond with his brother if he helps do little things with his brother. He will be a great big brother it's just going to take time for all of us to adjust.

Only 6 weeks to go!!

Yesterday marked 34 weeks for Mr. R.A.P!!! That means now only 20 days to go before he is considered full term. He is starting to cause his mom some pain now that he is getting bigger. I was concerned about the ache that I have been feeling in the right side of my ribs in the back. I brought it up to my Dr and she assured me it is totally normal. I haven't found too much that helps to relieve it but I will push through b/c I know that as soon as he is born it will go away. I had an u/s done just to check and see how he was positioned and he was head down with little feet in my ribs (guess that would be what explains the pain). He still has plenty of room yet to grow but most likely he will now remain in the head down position. According to the Dr very few babies flip once they get in that position at this stage.

His room is all ready for him now and it looks so cute. I need to go through all Ethan's 0-3 month clothes and get out all the onsies and also go through and see what we have as far as warm clothes. I have a friend who is holding her sons clothes for me. He was born end of Oct so they would be for the right season. Ethan was wearing 3-6 months by Oct/Nov and he was about 8 or 9 pounds at that time so I have a feeling most of Ethan's clothes will fit this baby. Already R.A.P is close to 5lbs so he is going to be a good sized baby at birth. I am getting anxious now and am so excited that soon I will be meeting him and holding him. It's going to be a great holiday season this year that I get to share it with my 2 beautiful boys and Matt.

A message from R.A.P

Guess what! My mom tells me I have officially made it farther than my big brother Ethan! I am not 31 weeks 2 days and I plan on baking for a while yet. I'm happy in my nice warm location. I have this great pillow to rest my head on. Although mom doesn't seem to like it. She says it makes her have to pee every half hour practically when I do that.

I had a check up today and everything is looking good for me. According to the Dr I am roughly about 4lbs. I even cooperated and let the Dr listen to my heart. Normally I am all over the place and like to make her chase me. Today I was too tired for the chase so I took a nap instead.

My parents have been working with my room. They say I am going to really like it. But I don't know what this Lion King is that they keep talking about. Mom said she got the wall decals up and some pictures. From what I hear from mom it's coming along quite nicely and should hopefully be completed by the end of this month. I can't wait to see what my parents have done for me. I guess I will find out in 9 weeks.

Because this is our second child there isn't much that is needed for this baby. We are in the process of getting ready to start working on the nursery and will most likely start painting it this weekend. The theme for the nursery is The Lion King. Matt and I have discussed it and we have decided that instead of gifts if anyone is interested in doing something for this little guy they could make a contribution to his room or to the few things that we do need. I went online and created a registry for him so that everyone can see what we are going to be doing with his room and what few things we do need. I saved all of Ethan's clothes and all the nursery furniture. I have 2 pack and plays, a bassinet, toys galore (so please no more toys), a bouncer, jumperoo, diaper bags, and tummy time mats. This time around I plan on breast feeding and a friend of mine gave me her breast pump that she was never able to use so I now have one. We have a stroller on lay-a-way at Babies R Us we will be getting the Sit 'n Stand stroller. We have car seats as well. Honestly we don't expect anyone to do anything for this baby. All we want is a healthy full term baby boy. But I also know how people are when it comes to new babies they just can't help themselves LOL. I should know I do it to my friend all the time. I see something and it just screams out "Buy me" and I have to get it for her little girl. LOL. We just figured just in case someone did ask us "What do you need for this baby?" We'd have an answer LOL. So if you are intending to do something for him please check out the registry, you can find a link to it at the end of this post. But also Please don't feel obligated to get for him either. He will be happy just to be so loved.

Tomorrow I will be 29 weeks and this pregnancy is going like textbook. Baby R.A.P loves to keep me up all night kicking and dancing on my bladder. He has his days and nights reversed LOL. I am always talking to him about that but he is like his big brother, he will do things the way he wants to do things. During the day he is very mellow he waits until I am ready for bed to give me some good kidney kicks or do a tap dance. Last night he was kicking so hard we could actually feel the vibration of them on the mattress on our bed LOL. He is going to be one strong little man. I had a chat with him over the weekend and he has been informed that he is not allowed to arrive during football games. He can come anytime Monday through Friday but the weekends are out b/c Mommy and Daddy want to watch football LOL. Soon enough we are going to have ourselves a new little Buckeye Fan and a new little Steelers Fan (shhhhhhh! Don't tell Matt he doesn't know this kid is a Steelers fan yet). He'll be following in his big brother's footsteps running around the house screaming "Go Steeeeeeels!" LMAO.

 OK so any ways he goes in for a check up on the 25th this week so I will update again then.

Babies"R"Us - Baby Registry

13 weeks left!

So I've been getting the feeling that people are worried about this pregnancy. Here's what I have to say about that.......RELAX!!! Seriously, I am not worried at all. I know that everyone is becoming more concerned b/c this is the point where we started to have serious issues with my pregnancy with Ethan however this pregnancy is completely opposite. I am 99% sure that I will not be having a baby over the next few weeks. How do I know that? I have been having the Fetal Fibronectin Test (FFN) done every 2 weeks starting at 24 weeks of pregnancy. The way this test works is if it's negative it's a 99.2% chance that I will not go into labor. If it's positive it just puts us on high alert that labor could happen. Only 16% of women who get a positive result end up going into  preterm labor. I have had 2 tests done and both have come up negative so there is a 99.2& chance that I WILL NOT go into labor between 26 and 28 weeks. I will have it done again at my next appt. I didn't really feel that anyone needed to know I was getting this test done but based on some conversations I've had I feel that maybe it would ease others tension to know that the test is coming up negative. I am posting this as a means to help ease anyone's worries. If I'm not worried no one else needs to be either. Whatever happens with this pregnancy I will take the cards that I am dealt and I will go with it. I don't want to be put in a position where I feel like I am constantly having to reassure anyone that everything is fine. So hopefully with this post I have put everyone's fears to rest and we can all just enjoy the next 13 weeks. I just don't want anyone to worry.

14 weeks and counting

Little R.A.P is going to be here in just 14 very short weeks!! We are so not ready for him to be here LOL. We need to get started on his room and there is so much to do. First we are going to sell the furniture that is in there. It was given to me by my grandfather and it was one of the last things he gave me before the Alzheimer's took control. Any money I get from it I am going to use to buy a few things for R.A.P that we will be needing and look at it as Pa's way of giving to his great-grandson. We have to get the chimney done and then we need to get the room painted as well. Hopefully we will get the repair work done in the next week while Matt is off. I haven't decided completely yet but his room is either going to be monkey's or baby Lion King. I saw the outfit at Babies R Us and they are both so cute. I will have to check them out again before making my final decision.

So R.A.P is 26 weeks today and he is a mover and a groover. This child has his days and nights reversed. I think it is his goal in life to make sure he keeps mommy awake all night. Ethan was totally opposite he was active mostly during the day. It doesn't help that daddy likes to get him riled up at night just before going to bed. Today we had the glucose test done and mommy was very happy that she only had to be poked once b/c the idea of 2 pokes was too much for me to bear. After that we had a check up and a certain baby was moving all around making getting his heartbeat tough. This time around I left Ethan at home it was just going to be too long of a wait for him. I am always in and out of the OB in under 40 minutes but with the blood test too I figured he wouldn't take it very well. I like to take him with me so he is involved with the pregnancy and he gets to hear his brother's heartbeat.

This little boy is going to be so lucky. He has a big brother who loves him very much and is anxious to meet him. Then again mommy and daddy look forward to meeting him in Nov as well. I keep telling him that he needs to stay put until then. He is not allowed to come early.